Time Management Tips and Adult ADD
I’m running late.
I’ll be there in just a little while.
I am so sorry that I am late.
How many times have you said these words? It feels terrible to be late -– to work, to your doctor's appointment, to your meeting, to meet a friend, getting the kids to school, and even worse, picking the kids up from school. No one wants to be late, but sometimes even those with the best intentions are chronically late. How can you stop this cycle? How can you improve your time management?
ADHD coach, Kay Grossman, M.A., LLC, explains that effective time management requires two skills that people with ADHD often naturally lack, but can learn -– planning and marking the passing of time.
According to Grossman, the best prescription for being on time includes:
- Planning ahead on a daily basis.
- Employing strategies that use the individual’s preferences and personal style.
- Using external cues to indicate elapsed time.
Grossman provides a few no-fail solutions for addressing specific time-management challenges.
Challenge: Planning Far Too Many Activities
How many times have you committed yourself to too many activities? Grossman says that this over-scheduling occurs quite often. Sometimes we become too gung-ho or unrealistic about the amount of things we can get done in a given time period. Other times, we may have a hard time saying “no” to requests others make of us. Unfortunately, over-committing and over planning simply sets us up for frustration.
- Choose a planner that works for you, considering size, technology, ease of use, portability, color, and feel.
- Mark out times for known, set, key events such as work times, meal times, carpools, and standing appointments.
- Create a to-do list and then choose no more than three to five high priority items to complete on a given day. Write those items in your planner in the gaps of time available.
- Think, “subtract” or “swap” when you add an item to your daily plan. Keep in mind the finite number of minutes in a day and the fact that you are only one person.
Challenge: Having What You Need to Get Out the Door on Time
It is time to go, but needed items are scattered all around the house. Where are those car keys? Where are my glasses?
- Establish holding places near the door for keys, wallets, backpacks, and purses. Make it a habit to place those items in the special place any time you walk in the door.
- Put any items you need to take with you in the morning in the designated holding place or on the floor next to the door. Encourage all family members to do the same.
Challenge: Having Too Much to Do in the Morning to Leave on Time
You can’t decide what to wear. Your shirt is wrinkled, so you must iron it. You finally decide what to wear, but now one of your shoes is missing from the closet!
- Reduce morning stress by preparing the evening before. Gather all items for your morning outfit, including shoes and accessories, before you go to bed.
- Establish and post a list of the morning routine. Do only those items. Do not squeeze in anything else.
Challenge: A Lack of Internal Cues That Help You Judge the Passing of Time
How many times have you been engrossed in an activity on the computer and lost track of time? This happens to people quite frequently. We get involved in an interesting activity, completely lose our sense of time and as a result we miss an important meeting or picking the kids up from school on time.
- Strategically set timers to ring or vibrate as a convenient external cue of elapsed time. You may even use a combination of a vibrating watch alarm set as a warning signal and a freestanding timer set 15 minutes later as a reminder to get off the computer in a timely manner.
- Set a cell phone or watch alarm to vibrate every 10 or 15 minutes. When the alarm goes off, use that as a cue to orient yourself in time. Ask yourself if you are doing what’s most important in this moment, and if you are where you need to be.
Challenge: Estimating How Long Specific Tasks Take
Grossman notes that with a fluid ADHD-style time sense, it is difficult to know if there’s enough time to finish a report the morning before the big meeting, to take one last phone call before leaving to drop off the children at soccer practice, or to make “just one stop” en route to the doctor’s office in time for the appointment.
- Double or even triple the amount of time you think it will take to do something and then plan accordingly.
- Make a rule for yourself that you will simply not do that “one last thing” before leaving the house for an appointment or en route to a destination.
- Hone your time sense by practicing. Start by estimating how long tasks will take. Write your estimates in your planner next to the item and keep track of the actual time spent. Look for patterns. Do you usually underestimate how long it takes to drive places? Do you tend to overestimate how long it will take you to complete your expense report? With vigilant practice of guessing and recording the actual elapsed time, the gap between your estimated and actual time will narrow. You’ll feel more in control and will arrive places consistently on time.
- Determine how much time it truly takes you to get ready to leave the house in the morning, accounting for everything that must be done. Plan for it.
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