Life with ADHD - Part 3
- I struggle with ADHD in other aspects of my life such as money management (I really suck at it) and relationships with friends and family, organization skills, you all know the drill, the same stuff as usual. I know I am also really really immature a lot of times which doesn't help as a parent but the kids think I am fun. I take Ritalin sometimes when I feel myself getting out of control and I need to start focusing again but only for 1 week at the most (had a single prescription now for the last 4 years, haha) I personally cannot organize my thoughts or words. When I am trying to think of what to say or the next word, its like there are 100 TV's playing in my head at the same time at full volume and I can't focus on any of them by themselves. Communications with people in general is definitely a challenge and now I see my daughter struggling through this and I really feel bad for her. I wish I could help her more than anything but I am soooo lost especially cuz she is a young girl.
- —Guest Paul
Life with ADHD - Part 2
- Because I have a family now I started to focus on a career. But what could I do that wouldn’t bore me to the point where I would quit. I went back to school to learn computers and networking and Programming. I discovered that I really love to do this and could focus well on this field. The great thing about this particular field of work is that it is very dynamic. It is always changing, evolving. There is always a challenge, a new puzzle to solve. I spent 3 years learning and passed with the highest marks of all the schools in my area which felt great. I started working as soon as I graduated and haven’t stopped yet. I have been able to stay employed longer and enjoy my career. I have been working in this field for 12 years now and will probably retire doing this. I have 3 kids now and 2 of them struggle with ADD/ADHD. I can see them going through it the same as I did and I try to advise them of certain pitfalls and help them where I can but it is difficult...
- —Guest Paul
Life with ADHD - Part 1
- I am a 42 year old who has struggled with ADHD as well. I could never sit still in class (still can’t) and couldn’t focus on anything during class. Because of this, I failed miserably. In school, when you start getting a little behind in your learning and you don’t get help, it will snowball quickly until you have reached the end of the year and by then it is too late. But the school system was so pathetic back then (and still is today) that they just push you through to the next grade which doesn’t help because you didn’t learn anything from the previous year. This went on right through to high school (7 years and no diploma) until I could give up and go out into the "working world". I had soooo many jobs like a lot of people with ADHD I would be excited and ready to learn, but eventually I would get bored of the job and start slacking, losing focus and would get fired or just stop showing up. It wasn’t until I got married and a child was on the way that I knew I had to provide and get serious about a career.
- —Guest Paul
why i'm not surprised
- I was diagnosed with ADHD in the early 80's after reading an article i brought to my doc's attention...was tested and determined to have severe ADHD... the worse symptoms are the racing thoughts that most often can't be captured and processed like a non ADHD mind...spinning wheels and going nowhere.. easier being alone, even though i enjoy people, easier than trying to keep up and not feel different...smart, wise, great insight and intuitive.. just a little "off"... it's a love hate relationship at best.. life altering as diagnosed in my 30's i didn't understand why i was different.. now that i know and understand.. i don't worry there is something wrong with me.. everyone has something and i am blessed with something that i can control and accept for the most part.... it can be emotionally and socially damaging.. but i still love me... makes it easier for other to do the same thank you all for sharing...
- —Guest living the adhd life
just wired this way
- I am not sure when it was I first knew I was different. Truth is, we all are. My first realization that I was perhaps ADD or whatever, came when a borrowed book, 'Driven to Distraction', and all in it, gave me in words and understanding, all I had ever felt, and been thus far in my life. I felt overjoyed at the discovery. I could never find words to describe what I felt or how it was for myself....and the book gave me complete clarity about it. It was the weirdest thing. I have talked with doctors about it, and it was very much agreed, yes, I am wired that way. I took Strattera previously, but not currently. Never offered other meds. Honestly, I have found a stimulant brings me in with the reins, and I can have a day that is 'mine', and not everything BUT MINE. So much trouble getting a prescription, and the weirdness of feeling like I am asking for it. It is easier to buy Ritalin off the street, the same person has sold me theirs for 8 yrs now...every month.
31 diagnosed at 24 with ADD
- It's so comforting to know that more people, not just children, but adults are also affected by this. I was able to make it through high school and college with the coping mechanisms I had built as a child...but when I had my first son...I was no longer able to keep up my facade...I was diagnosed after I hit the garage..instead of backing out i drove forward..i was distracted doing a million things.. I was putting on makeup and drinking coffee the worst part was my son was in the back seat..there was no damage to car and slight damage to garage and we were fine but it made me seek help... I was constantly late or missing my bills even though I had the money to pay...and procrastinating any and all tasks in life and work..in 2005 I was diagnosed and put on Adderall once a day..and I still have moments where I know my ADD is kicking in..but it no longer has the impact on my family and personal life it once did..medication not a perfect solution..but a livable one.
why am i not suprised lol
- i always thought i had ADHD, and everyday i read on the symptoms and traits of people with ADHD and everything describes me 100 percent, the whole money management thing, i can go from spending high amounts of money all at once at a given time simply from being impulsive/or being impatient. or try to save up or not spend money at all so people don't think i waste my money soo much, i would only eat out only if there is absolutely nothing at home, then i spend only a few dollars for the cheapest fast food. i'm a little frustrated because some people are telling me i don't have ADHD, i've been seeing a psychologist and psychiatrist for about a year now, but haven't actually brought up if i actually have ADHD, maybe i should give them more time to get to know me? btw none of the meds i tried have worked, i've been concluding that i might have something else like Aspergers/ODD/autism or something else, but i mean i share so many ADHD traits, i guess its a combination of everything.
- —Guest jihidiwhite
Is this it? my problem
- I can't concentrate. i go from one thing to the next without completing any of it. if i try to force myself to do a task. i start feeling wired like i'm drugged, and desperate overwhelming weird feeling. something comes over me. and i can't even talk properly after over exposure to a task, like my mind is broken. spinning! i'm a clever lad, and i am always being told that i need to just chill. mellow out!! relax. I can't. literally can't. i am a complete stress head. angry sometimes. depressed the other. i get called a lazy loser. as i don't get a lot done. i'm totally exhausted. and cant stop thinking at 100 miles an hour. i cant sleep because of this. i don't have many friends at all. they can't handle me. even my family avoids me.
- —Guest dan
Finally - continued
- with the proper treatment though (3 different medications) and developing strategies to cope with things l don't suffer the depression and anxiety l used to. And don't have to use the huge amount of energy to just get through the day. l used to be constantly exhausted. I am much kinder to myself now and don't beat myself up anymore. I don't always feel like l will have to find a new job soon and don't have the frustration of not feeling like l can't fulfill my potential.
- —Guest John B
- My Partner of 18yrs used to tease me about being ADHD when I was scattered, distracted, disorganised, late, etc. My 3 kids were diagnosed with ADHD and the fact that the oldest is from a previous marriage, the finger was pointed at me as the genetic common link. I have had an amazing mix of jobs and start each new job with enthusiasm and flair and good results only for them to disintegrate due to lack of organization and/or relationships with colleagues or supervisors etc. It became a real joke between a few people that I wouldn't be in a job for even a couple of years. It did cause a lot of anxiety though and l was always planning for the next change because l 'knew' l wouldn't be able to maintain my current occupation. If l didn't have a "plan B' my anxiety would run rampant. I had a tough time at school and found friendships difficult to maintain. l was ostracized at school and suffered badly from depression (though it was not diagnosed and l was further marginalized and blamed).
- —Guest John B
Glad I'm ADHD
- When I was young, I was labeled a bad and lazy kid. Now I know I'm a good person. Funny, quirky, hardworking. I have a great job and have educated my supervisor on ADHD and let her know that from time to time, I'll need guidance. I love the projects I work in and I am allowed to work to my strengths. I finally have a darling husband that is completely OK with my quirks, and actually loves me for them. Life does get better, but developing coping mechanisms is key (the bills are in order of the due date and are clipped with a magnet to the front door; keys ALWAYS hang in the same place, etc.) I now spend time helping kids with ADHD understand about their brain and that they can achieve. My guidance counselor didn't give my parents much hope. I'm glad they didn't listen!
- —Guest Denise
Falling Apart & Destroying My Life - #4
- I don't get to see our son because she continues to lie about me being a threat to her & his safety. I've lost another job now and am unemployed. I'm not on any meds at all and I'm crawling out of my skin, have no motivation to do anything (I have reasons to be motivated but I just can't make myself accomplish anything), I can't focus on anything not even an email (emails not take me hours to complete), I talk much more excessively than ever before, I have no interest in anything that I once did (other than my son that I can't see), and my memory seems to be failing me, I react based on emotions, can't calm down, feel like the world is crashing down on me and I can't get out. My friends turned against me because they think I threatened my ex-wife. The court thinks all I do is lie (always rule on the side of safety) and she tells the truth even though there's no history of such behavior, no evidence to prove I did anything, just she said/he said one time. The story continues...
Falling Apart & Destroying My Life
- This is my first time to share my experience with ADHD. I feel better reading other responses and knowing that there are others experiencing some of the same symptoms or issues that I am. I've always had ADHD, but not diagnosed until 8 years ago. I didn't have poor behavior in grade school, but got C's & D's in conduct for talking too much, comments without being called upon, etc. I'm 38 now and ADD/ADHD was not heard of back in grade school. My symptoms seemed to improve as I got into middle school and high school and eventually in college. After college I became a Pharmaceutical sales rep focusing on Psychiatry and Neurology. My performance was great and I enjoyed my job. One day while talking to a Psychiatrist I mentioned my past symptoms and how I still have a difficult time sitting down to read and comprehend the information. Of course he comments on how that can be improved. I figured I might be able to do things that I never thought possible if I was treated.
- Anxiety & ADHD is not just an adult condition. We found out that our 8 year old is suffering from it, for all reasons mentioned in the article about adult ADHD & anxiety. We don't treat it as a separate condition (no more meds!) but we are ever mindful that ADHD plays into his behaviors as much as the ADHD does.
- —Guest AlwaysSharing
- I have come to a point in my life where i am almost 100% definite i have ADD. I can't sleep if there is even a little noise, or study (I'm suppose to be studying right now). I cant sit in a lecture for 2hrs and concentrate I feel like jumping out of my chair. I've been told all my life that I'm lazy, messy, useless etc. I tried teaching but it was an absolute nightmare as i was overwhelmed by all the organization even though i was up till 1am every night trying to organize. i was told that i wasn't trying hard enough and this hurt like hell. I am scared of getting a desk job because i know i wont be able to sit for 8hrs without wanting to escape but most jobs are desk jobs at least the ones where the pay is reasonable.
- —Guest kate