I can understand
- It's not ADHD, in fact it might just be me, but (however bad it sounds) there's no getting around it - I know too much. People stare at me and say "no normal person knows stuff like that" well, maybe it'd be a very dull world if everyone was normal. It's basically any conversation I hear, I have to contribute. I speak too fast, my mouth is a bottleneck. Especially when I talk about science. Or history. Or philosophy. Or classical music. Or recent BBC dramas. Anything at all, and stuff I don't know I bluff. On a scale of 1 to 10, my self-esteem is 0. I can't hardly talk if I don't know the person. Even cashiers: I need to know their names. But if I know somebody I'm way too open. grr ... it's so hard to find the happy medium. Believe me, I try. When I know something in a class, I try to phrase it as a question - I get scarily high scores but I honestly don't feel that I'm trying. All I want to do is write, I don't really care about school, but I'm seen as a nerd ... It's not that bad
- —Guest Aryalda
Blurting out personal info?!
- I'm going crazy right now, because of something that i said! I was talking to the really popular girl, and she told me a story and mentioned that the main character had ADHD. Without thinking i said VERY LOUDLY, "Oh i have that!" and she responded even louder "i didn't know you had ADHD!" I'm freaking out right now because, what if she tells the whole grade? Popular people spread rumors faster than wildfire!!!!!! Oh i also have Generalized Anxiety Disorder too, so i may just be overreacting... Oh and also my crush is one of the guys she's tight with, so what if she tells him too??? sorry i got a little off topic, and i know this is long. But hey, at least i got it off my chest!
- —Guest Megan
My Friends and I
- Sometimes (or most of the the time) I say things I don't mean. For the first time I went to private school this year since I have always gone to public school. There I tend to say things I don't mean and mostly to classmates or friends. Really children in private school tend to be meaner and more snobby than I have ever seen in public school. I once read that your personality tends to change depending on the people you are around the most. Sometimes I wonder if I do it for attention. It's odd because I don't fell like myself when I say these things, but I can't find myself stopping. Is there some key to not doing this? If there is I am in desperate need of it. Though, I find keeping a journal about this to help.
- —Guest Blurting fool
Its not only ADD and ADHD
- Hi, I am a 24 year old woman with Aspergers Autism. This is a common (an uncontrollable) trait in Aspergers too. I have limited control over it and depending on the social situation depends how bad it is.
- —Guest Emma
mouth causes trouble
- I am very glad I found this thread. I am always getting in trouble with my mouth. I try and try and have tried everything mentioned but if my Adderall has worn off, I impulsively blurt things out that are mean or just stupid. I have lost my job over this twice. I have gone to my psychiatrist and he said after questioning me that he thought it was biological not psychological and put me on something to try to improve my impulsiveness when I am not on the Adderall. (when it wears off). I still did the same thing yesterday. Then I get very upset and cry and feel like a piece of crap because I can't even control myself. I don't know what to do. There needs to be a support group either online or in person, or something! I don't know what to do. I am normally, (90% of the time) a very sweet person. But let someone offend me and I fly off the handle.
- —jonesgirlsells
Runaway mouth
- Apparently I make comments without even realizing how rude they sound. They seem reasonable to me, but before I have time to analyze them, I say them and insult someone. It's gotten me in trouble at work. Then there's the difficulty modifying the words I am saying before they come out of my mouth. I accidentally said an inappropriate word in the worst situation possible, when I meant for another word to come out. That's causing some serious problems right now.
- —Guest Kat
Don't know what to do
- I have been diagnosed with ADHD since I was in 2nd grade and was taking something to help with it until I was taken off of it in 3rd grade and now I am 28 and still diagnosed with ADHD and taking meds to help me with it. But I have always spoken out of turn. I can see it in people's reactions or get told later how inappropriate I was. I do not mean to offend anyone, but I am a very open and truthful ADHD person. I blurt out what I thought was the truth. Looking back, it has ended or soured many relationships. I seem to be getting worse at social conversation rather than better. I need to find a solution within myself other than depression and anxiety. But I feel as if when I talk it's just my thoughts out loud and they go nonstop and if I'm quiet for too long I zone out because I'm more focused on my thoughts as opposed to listening to whom I maybe in a conversation with. I sometimes feel like my thoughts are slowly killing me. It affects my relationships with family, friends, and people in general.
- —Guest john
Impulsivity caused Job loss
- I was fired from Walmart in January. There was an incident in which a customer complained that I flipped her off. I was on the parking lot doing my job getting buggies out of the corral and the lady pulled near where I was getting buggies. She beeped her horn at me to let me know she wanted the parking place near where I was. I waved at her and she went in and complained to the manager that I flipped her off. I still am unsure whether I flipped her off or not. The store manager said he was going to put me down as eligible for rehire in 90 days (which are almost up) Anyway, I discussed the incident with my psychiatrist whose care I've been under for years for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)...i then discussed some other problems with him, and we determined that my medication wasn't working anymore. He changed my medicine and its working better for me.
- —Guest Charlie Bradley
Someone stop me
- I'Ve been blurting out inappropriate comments at inappropriate times my entire life. Am 50 now and was diagnosed in my late 40's. Adderall doesn't cure this impulsivity but helps a lot - by allowing me to hold back from an impulsive statement - most of the time. Now that I'm in menopause (sorry for the "TMI") my symptoms, at certain times, seem to have returned with a vengeance. I recall seeing an article re: this, but need to look it up and talk to my doctor and hopefully get some additional help.
- —Guest Female Guest Blurterer
I say stupid things without thinking
- I thought as I got older I would be wiser, but not so. I still stay inappropriate things, not to be mean, just blurt out statements that later bite me in the butt, and justly so. I have no idea why I do things like that. I don't do it very often, but when it happens I do apologize to whomever I have offended and I feel stupid and guilty and embarrassed for days. I feel like everyone knows what I've done and are looking down on me, when I know in fact that probably the only person that knows is the person I've offended. I hate myself when I do that, I want to talk to someone about this but I don't want more people to know what I've said or done. I have to work on thinking first before I speak, taking a breath before I blurt.
- —Guest guest
Handling excessive talking of students
- It is very challenging to deal with too many talkative students. Being in the school system for so long, I had to develop strategies to help control all the talking. In differentiation I give them interesting passages to read and comprehend. I put all the talkative students together, stand near them and monitor them closely. Keep in close contact with the parents and follow the discipline plan effectively. Give incentives as surprises, be persistent in speaking to them about their limitations. Last but not the least, challenge by talking more than what they talk. They hate when they get to know somebody can talk more than them.
- —Guest Sharon
Regrets
- I can't even count how many times this has happened to me. I don't know what causes it. Is it a disorder? Am I just mean? I honestly don't know. Just the other day I said something to someone and I think I really hurt his feelings because he stopped talking to me. I don't mind that he won't talk to me, in all honesty he's better off that way, but I hate thinking that I've caused someone pain especially because I know what it's like to be the victim of pain. So why do I say these things? Why do they just come out? I'm not proud of it, I know some people say its just "brutal honesty" but sometimes its just rude. You've gotta know when to shut your mouth and I just don't. My words come out before I even think, and bam, I've hurt someone again. And i feel guilty for DAYS afterward, then I find I can't apologize either, even though I'd like to...and I don't know why. This is one of the reasons why not many people like me. But I guess I'm used to it.
- —Guest Guest Angie
my experience
- I'm 15 yrs old, in freshman year and I was at lunch one day, and I said something to this guy at the table without even thinking, I just said it, and then, thinking back now, I didn't even mean it. I insulted his girlfriend, and just by doing this, I caused a lot of drama... I'm on medication for ADHD, obviously its not working because I cannot control this.
- —Guest lynnette
Mother and daughter blurters!
- My 14 year old daughter and I have both been diagnosed with ADHD. When I was growing up, I got myself in a lot of trouble for verbal impulsivity. It seemed like the only way I could avoid offense to others or embarrassment to myself was to stop talking altogether, by withdrawing altogether. So then I earned the reputation of being rude and antisocial! My daughter is now getting herself in a heap of trouble primarily at school for her verbal impulsivity - she's shockingly forthright, and is often oblivious to the social cues. And of course, the distractibility and the lack of organization just makes the school think of her as a bright, but rude and indifferent student! It seems like the harder she tries, the worse it gets. It's heartbreaking and it leaves me feeling absolutely helpless.
- —timzagain
SUPER EGO
- People think I am overly egoistic and vain. I am not. Sometimes I don't feel like saying hi or bye. I am always up for a joke or something interesting, but I just don't like making small conversation. Obviously, I put off a lot of people. I wish I could just be more patient.
- —Guest Sean
